I want to push you to forgive those that have wronged you. Understand that forgiving is not the same as accepting.
Forgiveness is for the victim more than the offender, especially if the offender doesn’t even realize what he’s done. For instance, you are walking down the street, somebody innocently bumps into you. He says sorry. He didn’t mean it, and he’s sleeping tonight.
You, on the other hand, are pissed off. This bump has now taken over your thoughts for the day and you can somehow connect that bump to all other negative moments of the day.
Inhale. Hold. Exhale.
Let it go. Forgive.
What about the harder things? She stabbed you in the back. You thought you were friends. Yet, she went and did that. She hasn’t apologized, so I guess you don’t have to forgive her, right? Well, this isn’t going to be a sermon, so I’ll leave the Bible out of it…for now.
Don’t be afraid to forgive someone. This doesn’t mean you approve of what the person did. For instance, someone may get shot by some guy who decided to shoot up a school. Now, forgiving him means that you’re no longer holding this against him. It is what it is, and you’re attempting to move on. Give yourself peace. However, you don’t accept or approve of this. Why is that? Well, most likely, you wouldn’t go have a cup of coffee with this person. You’ve moved on, but you’re also done with that person.
So, I encourage you to forgive. It is for you.