Category: Personal

Big Personal Update

Hey, there’s a been a sudden change in my life. It’s not bad news, but it does impact my blogging performance so I wanted to make sure you knew what was going on.

So, I just got this new job and the hours are pretty incredible. I will barely have time to myself and my writing projects. Not just that, but I actually won’t have much time for my lighting ministry and overall church activities. I will share my list of things that are going to have to be cut back or eliminated altogether.

  • Two small time jobs are gone (one was at church)
  • No more volunteering at the foodbank
  • No more working with church to do community activities
  • Probably will have to let go of a couple of writing roles at the 5 places I write at
  • Reduced time to keep lighting ministry up to date. Keep it up and running
  • Won’t be able to watch Sixers games (this one hurts a great deal)

Well, with that said, I am reworking my writing schedule. As usual, Dante’s Optimism is my top priority. The newsletter is fine. But, I will have to condense the blogging posts here to once a week in a similar format as the newsletter.

This was a long way of saying that there is a new feature coming to the blog and this blog will become somewhat quiet (oh, wait, it already is). In fact, the new feature is going to look similar to the old Daily Good Stuff posts before like, the early 200’s. Good times. After that it turned into crap.

Visit My New Website!

Visit My New Website!

Hello, Optimists! How are things going? I hope all is well and I am praying for those dealing with hurricane weather. My latest newsletter addressed some of that.

Right, so you’re here about the new website. I am pleased to announce, the official site of Dante Nelson. This is not a blog…really. It’s really more of a core for all things me in the writing world as well as the lighting world.

Yes, this site has all of the links for all of my written work on the web. It also houses info about my BRAND NEW BOOK coming out the end of the month. You’re the first people I’ve told about this book too. I can’t wait to share my discount with you for following me on this blog.

You’ll be able to see lighting videos and articles I make. I also have intentions of making videos exclusive to just the site.

That site links back to this blog as well. I recently told you how this site saved my life. This blog ain’t going anywhere, but, I needed to invest quite some time in building the site and that explains why this blog wasn’t as active as I liked it to be. But, again, that’s not a blog. It’s a website that will only update when I deem it necessary or when there’s an update about my writing and/or lighting projects I need to share.

So, if you need or want to keep track of where I am and what I write, then you’ll want to hit that site. Thanks for the support!

How This Blog Saved My Life

It’s kind of funny how you can spend your time trying to help others but inadvertently help yourself, perhaps even more than anyone else.

There was a time when I basically said life didn’t matter. Late 2015 until now has been a tough road and I am all out of options. Family. Gone. Career. Gone. Academic aspirations. Gone.

In February 2011, I launched a blog called National Sixers. A little later, I launched a blog called Dante’s Opinion. Dante’s Opinion turned into DALANEL which turned into Dante’s Optimism. Little did I know, this blog would literally save my life.

I think just about all of us has something we cling to when we’re in a dark place. It could be a person, a concept, item, song, place, or whatever. For me, I found out it was this blog. When I was ready to give up on everything, I had this blog.

To be honest, I would not be here today if I didn’t have this blog. I know it. I just know it. It’s hard to explain. I actually don’t believe in “things” making an impact like this, so this is like a…a big deal. Just looking at the pain I have faced, I noticed a trend: I write when I’m…lost…sad…depressed…I write. If not the blog, I would write for any of the other websites I contribute to. If not there, I’ll go ahead and write a short skit, sometimes, based off of the real life trauma I’m facing.

You reading this and following this blog really helped too. You helped to save my life. Thank you. If I had to stop writing…if I had to stop blogging…it would be the end of me.

People close to me don’t really appreciate what this blog means to me. Some think it’s a hobby. Some think it’s a cute little thing to pass time. It’s so much more than that. That’s something I realized about myself in the past couple of weeks. This blog was lowkey pushing me onward for years.

Sometimes I wonder if I had been writing when I was a kid, would I be able to deal with crap better. Would I be a better person? Live a better life? Be more confident? See, that’s what blogging has done for me. But, here I am. A not that good person trying to figure out my purpose. Why I should keep getting out of bed. And, when I think about shutting myself down, I think about this blog and I continue to think of better days ahead.

That’s how this blog saved my life.


Truth and Honesty

Truth and Honesty

What does it mean to be honest? What about being truthful?

We generally put these two things together to mean the same thing. However, they are not quite the same thing.

Honesty seems to be more personal. It depends on the person and where they are coming from.

Truth looks more absolute…like a fact. There is no debating the truth. There is no point of view that can alter the truth.

For example, let’s go into the courtroom. You swear to tell the truth and nothing but the truth and all of this. You answer a question about how many gunshots you heard. You say three. You heard three shots.

But then, there is recorded evidence and, clearly, there are four shots heard. Four.

Now, did you lie? No. You HONESTLY heard three shots go off. In reality…or the TRUTH was that there were four shots. And there is your difference.

I can honestly believe 1+1=3. I can honestly believe this. This does not make it true. The truth is 1+1=11 2.

You can honestly believe the truth isn’t real. That truth is a lie.

The truth is the truth. We can honestly believe in our own truth. Our own reality. If we believe in some reality that isn’t so, we end up on medication. Seriously.

As we go through life, we take sides on things. Red vs blue in the war of colors. Pro life vs pro choice. This TV show over another. We say this way or thing is better. Is that the truth? Nah, but you honestly believe that this thing is better than the other. It’s an opinion that’s not meant to be deceitful in any way.

Truth and honesty go together easily. However, they are not quite the same thing.

You know, I always wondered about things like this. Do I want you to be truthful, or honest? I realize that we don’t know all of the truth of everything. It’s quite difficult to know the truth sometimes. If you are honest with me, I will accept that. Honesty in ignorance is something I can accept.

I may have to stop blogging if I’m not a good brother

I may have to stop blogging if I’m not a good brother

Just a little while ago, I talked about the exciting things to come to this blog. However, as I mentioned before, 2016 was a bad year and I’m still reeling from it. What I stumbled upon this past weekend is that I might end up killing this blog because somehow my relationship with my sisters is a major player in my desire and fire to write.

I don’t know how this is possible.

Have you ever found out that everything you knew was a lie? Did you think things were one way when, in truth, it was a 180 degree turn of events?

I had found out that I wasn’t a good brother for years. I had thought I was, but no. I messed up in a serious way. I hadn’t realize my mistake until years later.

I really thought I was something. I wasn’t perfect, but darn it, I was good. I was really good! I wasn’t full of myself but I knew I was good at what I did. I was very confident. I knew only two things in life: I was a good brother, and I was funny. That’s all that mattered to me. That was my life.

As I tried to come to grips with this new reality, people told me that I was still a good brother. Eh…see, I don’t know if I accept that. I’m a brother; I am THE brother. Wouldn’t I know if I was doing my job well or not?

Who determines that you’re a good brother? You? Your sibling(s)? Parents? Other people? Is it a combination?

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Bad People Can Still Make a Positive Difference

Bad People Can Still Make a Positive Difference

I found out this year that I am a bad person.

The thing is, people around me don’t seem to accept this. But I know better. I know a lot better. I am not a good person. I lied to many. Hurt a few in major ways.

But that’s not what makes me a bad person. No, it gets worse: In most of the scenarios…I just don’t care.

Like, there’s no remorse for what I said or did in the past few years. Barely anything. I’m just not…I just don’t…it’s not good. Hey, it could be worse. For me, it really could be worse. I’m not the worst person in the world at all. I’m just a…what’s the word…I think a-hole should do it. A big a-hole.

What I do believe is that I am not a good person. I think this is a fact that people close to me will never want to believe. Nobody wants to believe the people closest to them are bad people. Who really wants to be associated with bad people?

And though I have done bad and have said bad, I run this blog. My optimism. My light. Can light come from darkness? Is this blog real?

Well, see, the thing is, I’m not a good person. Alright, alright, you know this. But let me finish: But, with God, I am a good person.

Okay, so wait, what does that mean?

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